Mari Reisberg on Performing, Healing, and Embracing Your Creative Side
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Mari Reisberg on Performing, Healing, and Embracing Your Creative Side

Hey everybody. Welcome to my guest tonight. I'm your host, Jeff Revilla.

I've got an amazing guest joining me tonight, Mari

Reisberg. Therapist, podcaster, circus

performer.

From the trapeze to the therapist's chair, she's danced through life with

creative flair, lifting spirits of movement in my. Murray

Reesburg loves joy unwind.

Tune in now. Take a creative flight. It's my guest tonight with Jeffrey Vil.

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Amari, welcome to the show. Did you like your song? Oh my

gosh, Jeff, that was amazing. I, I just, I

want that to play whenever I enter a room

or whenever I have to show up somewhere. It's

fantastic. Thank you so much for putting holiday.

Parties the grocery store. It's a mar.

Exactly. It's going to be stuck in my head for the rest of the night

for sure. Well, I teased that break going into

your song with circus performer and

quite a. A longevity. Seventeen years in the circus. How did

you get into that lifestyle? Sometimes it's, it's family related. It's

passed down. But how did you start in into the circus

and into studying trapeze? Yeah, so I

was a rowdy 3 year old. No one else in

my family is in the circus or just trapeze,

but I was a very rowdy three year old and my mom, who was pregnant

with my younger brother at the time, wanted me out of the house. And we

happened to live down the street from the trapeze

school in Portland, Oregon and I started

taking trapeze lessons. And then at three I was

invited to be a part of their

adult performing troupe in one of their

shows. Needed a redheaded kid and

so every night my dad would walk me to the theater, I would

do my performance and then I'd walk back home with him. But

that's how I got my start in the

the circus physical theater performing world.

And trapeze was a huge part of that. And so

that's where it all began. You were like a rowdy, like a. You had a

lot of energy as a three year old and you went to study

this and did you get hooked right away? Was it something that you

love doing right from the start? Absolutely.

I think the sensation of flying

was so magical and

incredible that I remember having dreams

of flying and then being on a trapeze. You literally feel

like you're flying even though you're holding onto a bar

and moving through the air. But it was,

you could never get high enough on a Swing on the

playground, but on a trapeze, now that was a whole

different experience. Feeling like you were really flying.

And I think from the very beginning I was hooked.

And I live in the east coast and I never even heard of the, of

a school for trapeze artists. My daughter did gymnastics and dance.

Dance. And I understand that world, but what does it, what does

gymnastics look like for a three year old? I can't imagine they put you 20ft

up in the air on day one. Definitely not. Definitely

not. We were learning the basics of

trapeze. You know, your feet could touch the ground and you were holding onto the

bar and running one direction and then turning your body and running back the

other way. And the bar was, you know,

fit a three year old's hands. It wasn't a big

dowel that you couldn't hold on to and the

triangle that was the bar and then the padding

connected to the ceiling, you know, was the size

for a child to use because as a three year old

your legs aren't wide enough to grip

the edges of a full size trapeze.

So there were modifications that were made as children

and that was, I don't know, there was just something so

magical about being a part of

the circus world and

experiencing what aerial dance was and

physical theater and learning all the components and pieces

of this, this world of performance,

of how to use your body to convey story.

Because it wasn't through lyrics or

dialog. And as you go through the years, you,

17 years of studying are there like, like

in dance and gymnastics, there's recitals and competitions. What,

what does that look like? As do you go through a year of study and

then you put on a performance or is that something you do on summer break?

You, you go out and perform at different fairs and community

places. So when you're taking

classes like you would with a dance class, yes, you have a recital at the

end of the class session. But by the

time I was six, I was a member of their children's performing

troupe. And so that was a part

of, we did regular shows. We had,

I want to say memory serves, we had a

summer show and a winter show that we did. And then sometimes

we'd tour and go to other little towns

or fairs in Oregon and put on

the show that we had created for audiences. But

it wasn't, there weren't any competitions, there weren't levels other than

like the children's performing troupe and the adult performing troupe.

And you kind of moved up into the adult

performing troupe and that happened As I hit high school

and got to participate in so many

amazing opportunities. After I graduated

high school, I took a year off between high school and college and toured with

the adult performing company in Washington

state, Oregon. And then we got the opportunity to perform off

Broadway in New York City for a month. And that was an

incredible experience. Being in

a theater that size, performing eight times

a week and navigating what trapeze

and physical theater do to your body that many times

a week as well. Did you have a favorite maneuver or like a

signature one that you. You love to perform during shows?

Oh, you know, I think my favorite was

literally just to swing and feel the. The

air blowing past you, whether you were hanging on the bar,

sitting on top of the bar, or hanging by your knees

on the bar, or your ankles on the bar and just

feeling the freedom and again, feeling like you were

flying. And those years performing, is that

where you caught this bug of performing, of getting in front of a

crowd, of just showcasing some sort of

talent or some sort of emotion? Did that all come

from starting here in the trapeze school?

Absolutely. From that first time I got to

perform in front of an audience, I was absolutely hooked. If

you ask my parents, I put on many a show for them in my living

room, and then it just kept growing

and continuing on. And getting

to share a piece of your heart and soul

with an audience is unlike anything

else. It's such a wonderful experience to be able

to walk onto a stage and share a part of yourself

and impact other people by the story you're telling,

and then be able to finish that performance

and walk off stage and feel like

you. You really, you were

able to impact someone and share a little piece

of you with someone else that you may never meet,

you may never know, and then head back to the

rest of your life. You mentioned traveling and you. And

you went to New York City. Did you stay there for a while or did

you end up moving to New York City for a little bit? Yeah. So

the first time we were there for a month performing off

Broadway. And then after that, I went

to college in Connecticut and got a degree in acting.

And then following my acting degree, I moved

back to New York and lived there for three, about three years. And

at that point, I was singing with an Irish band. On

auditioning and working as a nanny. As you do

in New York, you got a lot of things to help you survive.

And most important, you were started out as performing. You go to school

for acting, and then you end up in. In New York City.

You Know, auditioning, getting roles and trying to, you know, establish

yourself. But there was a little thing you just skipped over real quickly.

You started singing in an Irish band. How did that

happen? How did you. How did you connect with that group? Yeah,

so I. Growing up, my cousin

is, oh, 10, 12 years older.

Maybe she's a little bit older than that. She plays the Irish

fiddle and had lived in New York for years and years and years,

and she was always looking for a singer, and. And

I happened to move to New York, and she knew that I sang and knew

that I was a performer and asked if I wanted to

come and sing a couple of songs at one of her gigs. And

I did, and things worked out really well. And

so I just started getting to perform with her band

and singing at the Coney Island

Irish Festival and for a lot of weddings, which is a

curious thing, I will say. There aren't a lot of Irish,

like, uplifting songs for weddings.

There's a lot of traditional Irish songs about famine and,

like, the burden and surviving

and drinking and a lot of drinking songs. Because some of

those Irish pubs can get pretty rowdy, you know, after midnight. Yeah,

this is very, very true. And so much fun and

so welcoming. And everyone knows the

songs, and everyone knows the lyrics. So you.

It's such a community that you get to be a part of. And

that was such a gift, being a

young performer in New York, to really get to be a part of

this experience. Because as performing, if you know

the material and you can deliver it fairly well, that

whole bar, you know, if you're at a club or a pub, they're in

the palm of your hands. That whole. They're singing along and having their.

Their bottles, and it's a great time. And if you

have that talent and that training and you're singing

these songs that people love, what better gig is there in the world?

None. Absolutely none. Yeah, you captured it so beautifully

to be able to have everyone join in

and participate and get to lead them and

play. And that's. That's some of my favorite types

of creative experiences. So there's love

for performing, this passion, you know, for the arts and. And

just expressing yourself in different ways through, you know, physical.

Physical, you know, flying through the air physically and. And

singing and dancing and acting and that. But that's not where you stopped

with your education, with learning. Well, what else caught your eye

during that time that you like? I got to learn a little bit. I need

to learn more stuff. Right. I got it. I'm taking a different step

yeah. So when I was living in New York City, I

hear this a lot. People tell me you're just so easy to talk to.

You have a very welcoming face and you

listen to me. And so wherever I went

in New York, it was if I went to a bar, if I was in

a cab, if I got my nails done, someone was telling me

their life story. I have been at diners at

2am and had people walk up to my table and say, hey, can I

join you? I, I just really need to talk to someone.

And after a couple of years

of this happening, I thought I, I should get

paid for this or this. There's, there's something

here that I should pay attention to. And it was

at this time where I was starting to think

about what creativity was to me. I

think up to this point creativity had been performing

and had been being on stage in this kind of big

C creativity. And I started

kind of toying with this idea that

life could be creative, that you could get

dressed with creativity or walk your

dog in a creative fashion, or

explore life through this creative

lens. And after a conversation with my dad,

he encouraged me to look into creative arts

therapies. And that was where I found

specifically dance movement therapy. Because dance and movement has,

had always been such a huge transformational

experience for me that I was really

intrigued by, well, how do, how does this turn into therapy and how do

you get to participate in

transformation and supporting other people to experience transformation in their

own life? And so I got into

a program. There's, at the time there were only five dance

movement therapy programs in the United States. And the one I ended up

at was at a tiny Buddhist inspired university in

Boulder, Colorado called Naropa University. And

that was where I learned,

you know, the world of psychology and

somatic psychology, or body based psychology and dance movement

therapy. And through that process,

my acting degree started to make a little more sense to me

and I started putting pieces together and

was then able to combine the world of performance and the world of

psychology. And that then

around 2013 turned into my

sustaining creativity work that I started

doing with universities across the

country and supporting performers at the time,

specifically performers to have

more agency and experience of safety and

trust within themselves to take creative risk from and

then come back to their sense of self post

performance. And that's why I think your backstory is

so important. You went on this journey of performing, being a

performer and, and helping people and just listening to people and then you start

studying psychology and dance and creative movement and all

those things happen. Because of all the things that happen. That's kind of like,

I love like drawing a line through history and seeing

every time those dots connect along that line. And you have a great

story that does all of that. And we start, you

start talking about creative therapy, movement therapy, and for actors

specifically or performers specifically. And what would

be a reason that they start to look into this type of therapy

or, or who specifically would benefit from that type of

therapy? I, I mean, I hate to be cliche and say

everyone, but it's true, everyone would benefit.

I, I think not everyone has

a connection with their body for any number of reasons.

And the, the world of somatic

psychology, we, we have learned and have studies

where we know our body holds information for

us and being able to access that, have

awareness of the cues and signals

our body is giving us when we're experiencing

panic, or when we're experiencing depression or anxiety

or worry or fear or grief or loss.

When we pay attention to our body, it's

giving us signals to alert us

things are happening or things are about to happen, which then

helps us navigate those

parts of our life more effectively. And

for some people, talk therapy is the world that,

that fits into and that's great. And for other people, they need to

access it more non verbally and

that's where movement therapy and dance therapy come in to

play. And like I asked earlier about, you know,

did you have a signature move or a way that you presented tricks, you've

taken your skill sets and applied it to sustain and create

creativity. And you said that you've now taken this and, and taken it

to colleges and, and you've taught at different universities, this

type of therapy. Tell us a little bit about, you know, how did you put

a curriculum together to take on the road or to take to different

colleges? Yeah, so

I combined my degrees very directly, this

degree in acting and this degree in psychology. And

really the foundation of my sustaining creativity work is

all about safety and trust. When we feel safe enough,

you know, we're never going to have 100% safety in anything we do. So,

so it's about finding how do we know? How do

I know I feel safe with myself? How do I know I feel safe with

other people? How do I know I feel safe in the environment I'm

in? What does that feel like in my body? And then how do

I trust myself? How do I trust others? How do I trust

the environment? And what does that look like? How do I feel that in my

body? And so it's this foundation of safety and

trust where we can take creative risk from

whether it's in a class or a performance or

you know, trying something new. And then we have this

foundation to come back to once the creative risk has

resolved or we, we've finished the class or the

monologue or the performance. This idea

of,

this idea that I have more

control and more agency of myself. I really have

to know myself to take risk. And

creativity comes alive at the edge of your comfort

zone. And so finding the edge of your comfort

zone is really important. And so creating a curriculum

that really supports students and faculty

to explore these things for themselves, find

what works, what doesn't work, how they relate to each other, how they

relate to themselves was really important to me because I

felt that on some level I got this amazing training

on how to be an actor in acting school, but I

didn't always get how to support my

creativity as an actor or how to

navigate between the worlds of performing and life.

And so that's this skill set and this curriculum that I've

created to support people with. Is this something that

works better one on one or in groups or how about even

virtually can. Yeah. Tell us a little bit more about the

ways that people can participate in this. All of the above.

I've done in person workshops for various

groups of people and universities. I've done virtual

workshops for universities. I've done one on one coaching

sessions. And it just depends on what people

are looking for and how much time they have and

what, what they're hoping they will,

you know, be able to

flourish or transform for themselves and

for everyone. That's different. Some people really enjoy a group setting and

that feels the safest. Other people feel like I can't do anything

to risky in front of other people. I have to do it

first for myself and then I can do it in a group.

So yeah, you talked about the, the pressures of acting

and maybe even the, the auditioning and the stress and

the rejection and those things tend to compound over years.

Have you applied this outside of the acting world for, you know,

maybe people with high stress jobs, moms and dads, or you know,

what are other applications for this type of therapy for other people?

Yeah, absolutely. So I mean, these

worlds are a little separate. The per, the creative, the sustaining

creativity world, and then my true private practice as a

therapist world, the creativity

world. I use a lot of the creative pieces

with my therapy clients and with my coaching clients that

are specifically more of the creative lend

themselves more to creativity. But I, you know, I work with a lot of people

who consider Themselves to be former creatives. So maybe they have a

degree in music or dance or acting, but then set

that aside and joined the corporate world or set that aside and had

kids. And so a lot of the work we do is about

rediscovering their creative spark

or creating time for them

to flex their creative muscles more

than they had been, or rediscovering why

they set creativity aside. And how, how

does creativity get to blend more into

their everyday life and not just be only about

performing, but it's about opening the refrigerator, seeing

what you have, and making a meal or

cutting toast in a certain way for kids who don't like crust

or you know, putting

a collection of things together on a wall because

it brings you joy. Or ordering food from

a restaurant and putting it on a plate in a way that is

appealing to you. Those are all creative expressions.

But I just don't think we think of

creativity in those ways. Or if you can't

come back to performing creativity, how are you using

creative opportunities in your corporate job?

Do you color code your spreadsheets? That's a form of

creativity. Do you doodle while someone

is talking? That's a form of creativity and creative expression.

So really supporting people to find these pockets

and these moments of creative spark

that they can bring into more

of their life experience. For someone who

maybe never considered this type of therapy or expressing themselves or

you know, getting back in touch with some of their creative features

or creative

aspects that they had as when they were younger because, you know, life sometimes catches

up with you. Are there any common threads that, that you

see that when people come to your practice or people seek you out

that, that, you know, this is, I, I may not be thinking about this,

but typically people who come to see you

tend to have or, or collect in this little pool where

they seem to have the same thing where they're not getting that spark in life.

Or is there something common between people who come to see you?

The only reason I'm asking is if somebody listening. Yeah,

wasn't thinking about this, but oh, like wait a second, you know, I kind of

feel burned out or you know, what, you know, what's, what's my trigger?

Sure. I mean, I think, I don't know that there's one

thing. There are many things that cross over for

people. Burnout is a huge one. Regret

is also something people, oh, I wish I'd

continued with piano lessons or I wish I'd taken

that dance class. But also I think

this, there's a self sabotage of not feeling

good enough that I wasn't good

enough to do whatever creative

expression professionally. And I think

we discount the amateur. And

it's okay to not do something professionally and still enjoy it

and love it. And so I think

reminding ourselves that it's okay to do something for

fun and because it brings us joy and it isn't for

anyone else. But oftentimes fear gets in our way

because we think, oh, I have to be perfect at it or I have to

do it in this certain way because that's how other people are doing it.

And, and I like to encourage people that, no, you

get to do it in your way. Mari's way is different than Jeff's way of

doing something. And what works for me isn't going to work for other people.

But I like to give people lots of options

and lots of tools and skills so they can start pulling things out

of their own toolkit to really

enhance and support their own life. But also to understand

we have emotions for a reason. So let's understand why,

why we have fear. What is fear doing for us? And how do

we navigate the moments where we feel

afraid and we still try something

comes back to feeling safe enough to take a risk. If we don't feel

safe enough, we're not going to try anything.

And your creativity keeps evolving. You have a podcast,

Sustaining Creativity. Tell us a little bit about, you know, what was the

genesis of that show and what are some of the stories or interviews

you're telling on that show? Yeah, so my

podcast started like so many people during

the pandemic, when I couldn't

travel to universities and do in person workshops. But I

really felt it was a time where we needed to keep talking

about creativity and needed to share

our creative self and creative experience with

the world. And so I pivoted to start the

Sustaining Creativity podcast. And I interview people from around the world

on what creativity means to them, how it shows up in their life. And I

have interviewed some amazing individuals, people who

come from very creative worlds and people who

do not come from your traditional creative world.

I have interviewed, excuse me, I've interviewed lawyers

and, you know, athletes and

accountants and computer programmers

in alongside the actors,

dancers, filmmakers, all of these

the storytellers and writers and photographers. So

I. This is now, I'm in my sixth year and we're

almost at 300 episodes. And it's been

such an incredible journey to share these stories with

my listeners and to keep the conversation of

creativity alive. Did any profession

ever surprise you? Like you interviewed an accountant who he also

happens to Juggle chainsaws. Like you didn't see that coming.

You ever have any good surprises on the show? Always.

Always good surprises. I think my. One of the ones

that sticks out in my head was

I asked my guest what their earliest

memory of being creative was, and they shared

that when they were little, they were a really good liar,

and that was their creative ability of weaving

lies and stories. And so I wasn't

expecting to hear that from someone. But, yes, I've

interviewed accountants who feel their ability

to visualize numbers and see a

spreadsheet and color code it and make it

come alive off the page is. I

wasn't expecting someone to dig that deep, but

that was their experience. I've interviewed professional

doodlers, which is an amazing job I didn't know

existed, where people, they've doodled. You

know, for Steve Jobs, who's giving a speech and

they're behind doodling what he's talking about. And

that was the things and the careers

that are out there that I've never heard of.

I love, I love talking to people and learning.

I always learn something from my guests, and that's part of the

joy of getting to interview people

from all walks of life and all corners of the globe.

And if people wanted to check out those almost 300 episodes, what's

the best way to find the podcast? You can find it wherever

you listen to podcasts. We're on Spotify, Apple Podcast,

and so many more. All the

platforms you can find Sustaining Creativity Podcast.

And you could go all the way back to 2020 and start

from the beginning and see how I've grown

as a host and listen to all of the

guests and their amazing stories. And yeah,

we're releasing our 300th episode, I want to say,

sometime in July. And if people,

colleges, corporations want to hire, get in contact

with Mari Reisberg. How do they get in contact with you? Well, I

am very active on social media, so you can find me at Sustaining

Creativity on Instagram, Facebook

under Mari Reisberg on LinkedIn or TikTok is

sustaining creativity. You can send me an email. My email is

under my full name, which is Marika M A R I K

A Reesburg R E I S B E r

g@gmail.com. that is the easiest way to get

in touch with me. Mari, this has been so much fun. I'm going to get

off of this call and go be creative now just for my

own sanity. I've been stuck in a recliner for eight weeks with a torn

Achilles, but now I feel inspired again. And I'm g.

I'm gonna start being creative again. I love to hear it. Thank you,

Jeff, so much for inviting me to join you tonight. It has been such

a treat. Well, let's hear that theme song.

From the trapeze to the therapist chair, she's danced through life with

creative flair? Lifting spirits of movement in mind? Marie

Reesburg loves joy unwind.

Tune in now. Take a creative flight. It's my guest tonight with Jeffrey

Villa Watersite Stories that soar and laughter that heals. This is the

pocket cats, where life gets real.

I feel like you're going to start carrying, like, a little portable boombox, so

when you walk in the room, hit play.

Yes. Are you in my head? Is exactly what I will be doing.